5 Keys To Reprogramming Your Thoughts
Ok Internet, this is a long one…but well worth the read, promise. Besides, it’s been a while so I owe you 
I was driving home yesterday and drove by a neighborhood that I’ve seen a million times but for some reason today I noticed it. I noticed all of the debris outside of the complex. What could be a very decent town home complex was littered with filth everywhere. Even peoples patio/deck areas – their own personal “home” space. Why? There seems to be an attitude of indifference that is prevalent with poverty. You have to wonder: does the poverty create the attitude and thinking or does the attitude and thinking create the poverty. Another way to say it is: does lack cause one to act different to their environment or does indifference to the environment (the thought/attitude) cause the lack?
Chicken or egg? Did the thought create the situation or the situation create the thought?
It’s been said time and time again that when you change your thought s you will change your life.
The bible says, “as a man thinketh in his heart, so he is” and again when healing the sick Jesus would continually ask “Do you believe….? According to your faith, so let it be onto you” Not religious? That’s ok, let’s talk about the self fulfilling prophecy or the Law of attraction. No matter how you slice and dice it or what you want to name it the reality is we have created the life we have because of our thoughts.
The process goes something like this:
Core Beliefs
Your core beliefs about life, money, etc., what you’ve been feed and consumed your whole life, is what leads to your thoughts…
Thoughts
Your thoughts, affect your feelings and how you perceive life, the world and situations. If you have feelings of unworthiness, when certain situations arise that another person may accept gladly you may consciously decline or unconsciously sabotage the opportunity because you feel unworthy and then feel like nothing goes our way and perceive life as unfair.
Feelings & Perception
Your feelings and perceptions cause you to take or not take certain actions. So, if you perceive the world to be unfair. If you feel being rich is being greedy, your are going to take actions alignment with that.
Actions
Your actions, produce results.
Results
Get it?
Now personally I don’t believe that things are just simply attracted to you when you say or think certain things (not ALL of the times, not uniformly). I don’t think it’s always so mystical. I believe that because in our hearts we truly believe these things we have programmed in our minds we start to then do things that support our beliefs and it is those actions that create the reality we see.
I used to always say “I’m broke”, so guess what? I would spend money I didn’t have and do other destructive things to ensure I was broke. I was always tired but I was always telling myself “I’m so tired” and eating energy sucking foods, staying up till ungodly hours not getting enough sleep, not drinking enough water etc. I created these results.
Once I changed my words and my mind I got better results. Now, when I tell myself “I am full of energy and vitality”, it prompts me in a weird way to do something like grab a bottle of water, plan my next juicing recipe etc. My actions start to change because of what I now believe. Even my physiology changes, I instantly change my body language. I sit up and feel more energized. Because I truly believe I am full of energy. I’ve programmed myself to. I’m still working on truly believing, to my core, that I can be rich, abundantly wealthy (I’m not perfect, but I’m in perfect process ).
When we change our thoughts by changing our words, and truly believing them (faith) our actions will align to create a new reality.
How do you change how and what you think? Total reprogramming.
You’ve spent X number of years believing what you do, it’s going to take a full upheaval and some time to change it but the trade of is the life you’ve always wanted, joy and fulfillment.
- Start by asking what are the sources that have feed into me throughout my life? Write down your answers. Don’t just mull them in your mind, write them down. Trust me on this. Now that you’ve analyzed this and you’ve written them down, you need to change them, now.
- Change who occupies your time, surround yourself with people who speak life into you. People who are supportive and are at a place in their life you are aspiring to. Completely remove yourself from all negative people. I’m sure you love your family, I know I do. But they have feed into who you are right now (and vise versa) and while I’m sure you are just an amazing person, you’re trying to make some changes right now and you will need to create space there. Once you have transformed yourself you will only be stronger to feed positive things into them.
- Change what you are listening to: the music and TV programs. Your best bet is to just turn the TV off all together but if you can’t part with it, skip the news and drama filled life suckers like “The Hills”, “True Blood” etc. Music is a very powerful thing. Most times, times consciously or unconsciously, songs resonate in your head. How many times have you said “I can’t get that song out of my head”. If something is going to be running through your head that much you might want to make it more productive to your bottom line. Listen to self help audio books. Record your mission statement on your mp3 and listen to that.
- Change what you feed your mind. What kind of books are you reading? Skip the newspaper. It’s all bad news and if anything BIG is happening in the world everyone will be talking about it so you won’t miss a beat. Only read what is edifying and filling you with info that when you sit back and think about what you’ve read, the thoughts would be beneficial to your bottom line. Read self help books, books on money (becoming a millionaire), books on the business you want to start or the goal you want to attain.
- Change your words. Your audible words. This means, you literally need to open your mouth and say better things, to others and to yourself. Use affirmations and your mission statement . I find sometimes my mission statement just runs through my mind.
Initially your mind may wander back to those thoughts of lack. Don’t beat up on yourself, just take notice of it, be aware when it happens and immediately begin filling your mind with the thoughts that will change your life. Say your mission statement, on repeat. Start working on reprogramming the non-productive, sabotaging thoughts that plague you now.
Change your thoughts and you WILL change your life!
Aligning Your Goals and Actions
“Tell me who I have to be, to gain some reciprocity” – Lauryn Hill, one of the best of our time (and I won’t take any argument on that internet!)
Recently I started to re-read Debrena Jackson Gandy’s – All the Joy you Can Stand. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, GET THIS BOOK! It will no doubt have a profound effect on your life in your journey through Personal Development. One of the points in the book that has always really stuck out to me is in point# 8. In this particular section she is discussing putting our energy and life source toward what brings us Joy. Aligning our actions with your joy givers by asking “who do I have to be in order to attract and create these types experience and relationships”
The first time I read it I took a few hours and really stopped to analyze my life and dig deep to find what TRULY brings me joy.
So Internet, what brings you joy? We all have surface answers. The answers that seem like the right thing to say or that your mind has told us but dig to your spirit. That’s where the answer lies.
Now let’s be clear, joy is not the same as happiness. Happiness is fleeting, temporal. It’s a surface level emotion. Joy is a deeper feeling unstoppable and unshakable. Makes you smile, when everything around you says you should be down. Joy emanates from God given and is deep within your spirit. So Internet, what REALLY brings you joy?
- What type of marriage or love relationship brings me joy?
- What type of man or partner brings me joy?
- What type of relationship with your kids brings you joy?
- What type of financial situation brings me joy?
- What type of relationship with my family (mom, dad, siblings) brings me joy?
- What type of friendships, interactions, associations brings me joy?
- What type of career and use of my natural gifts, talents and abilities brings me joy?
- What use of your days and time brings me joy?
If you don’t have kids or a husband or any of the other line items yet but anticipate this in your future, answer these questions anyhow. Start thinking about these relationships and experiences now.
Now ask, who do I have to be t have this? Your desires have to align with your actions and who you are. For example, you can’t say you want successful, loyal, fun friendships but you’re a broke, negative back-biter. You get it? Shanel Cooper Sykes covers this in her video, All Men Are Dogs. Many women want a certain man but fail to look at what they are bringing to the table. You have to give what you want to have. This was a huge eye opener for me. In answering the question, who do I have to be to have this; I continually came up with exactly what I was seeking as my answer. Interesting huh? Remember that like attracts like and the very thing we put out is what we get so if we want to change what we get we have to put something different out and that something different is, again, the very thing we want to attract. Like attracts like.
So once you’ve searched your heart and truly determined your heart’s desire and what brings you joys in each area of your life analyze who you have to be to have it. Don’t let this be a onetime occurrence though. Check in on this regularly to ensure you are walking in alignment.
Now internet, I have been writing these articles for a while now and Mr. Google Analytics tells me your reading but I see NO comments. I’m sharing my journey, thoughts and discoveries with you so “tell me who I have to be, to gain some reciprocity?” LOL..I had to But for real though…say something!
10 Steps to an Inviting, Cozy, Sexy Home
Ever wonder when you walk into some people’s homes and it just has that vibe that inviting coziness or even sexy feeling, how the heck they do it? Well Internet, Lifestyle Divine is here
Here are some simple steps to creating an inviting, cozy, harmonious and yes, even sexy home.
1 – CLEAN UP
This seems like stating the obvious but it must be said. No fingers pointed but some of you have some very unclean homes. I’m talking about tidy, I mean CLEAN. Get behind that desk that hasn’t been moved in years and clean out the dust and dirt. Mop the floors. Clean all of the places you don’t normally see as well. Get in there and do the work. This is clearing the air. Try to use environmentally friendly/green products. They are so common place now they really don’t cost much more than the standard brands and the leave you with a cleaner air and not one where everyone eyes are watering and they are gagging. Not so sexy.
2 – CLEAN OUT
As your cleaning up, lean out. Remove ALL clutter. This is a vital step in creating harmony in your home.
Cutter creates tension. You may not be entirely conscious of this because you used to the clutter but once you clear the space your entire body will relax from the release. Clear off side tables and coffee tables. They should only contain any or all of the following: a lighting source, a book, a vase of flowers. Clear out every area of your home. In general, if you haven’t used it, looked for it, wondered “where did I put that…” in the last year, dare I say 6 months, toss it! This includes old clothes, magazines, food, toiletries, and even furniture. If that old comfy chair that only you appreciates is cluttering the space, out it goes. The great thing is if the clothes and furniture are in good order there are local charities always looking for things so they won’t go to waste.
Let it go and breathe
3 – OPEN THE WINDOWS
Yes, breathe FRESH air that is. If you’re in a four season country and its winter you can still crack the windows a bit. If its summer where you live, open those windows wide and let the fresh air in. You’d be amazed and how the gentle flow of breeze coming in your home actually adds life to it.
Now that you’ve cleaned up and cleared out and your windows are open letting the fresh air in stop and take a moment to just feel the difference. Amazing isn’t it?
4 – THE LAYOUT
This article isn’t about Feng Shui but I will use one or two points from it. Feng Shui is a very complex science and one that I won’t pretend to be an expert at but I will cover arranging your furniture for harmonious flow of energy and life. In Feng Shui there is a very specific way your furniture should be laid out.
In your living room, make sure your back is not to the entry. Move the couch and chairs around so that you can clearly see the entry and the window from where you are sitting. The logic is that when you cannot see these areas your mind will automatically not be focused and therefore you will not be relaxed.
If the layout of the home is one where this is not possible invest in a beautiful mirror and place it in the right spot to allow you to see these areas form the couch ad chairs
In your bedroom, the same applies. You must be able to see the doorway when lying in bed.
5 – GET THE ENERGY FLOWING IN YOUR BEDROOM
For the bedroom, we’ll apply a bit of Feng Shui again. If you are like most of the people, you probably have at least one alarm clock, TV, stereo and even a computer in your bedroom. What about the under the bed clutter? Remember I asked you to remove clutter? Did you move it to under the bed or did you simply ignore under the bed? This was a challenge for me when I de-cluttered. My home doesn’t have much storage space and even after clearing out bags of old clothes I was still left with a very small amount to store because of the many seasons where live. I figured one of those under the bed storage containers would be fine, after all, it’s for” under the bed”. Well, it’s actually not so good. If you’re trying to create that harmonious space where things just flow this is a hindrance as energy is unable to flow freely in a bedroom with clutter under your bed and electronics all around. This type of bedroom is actually unable to support a good night sleep, and to promote health and happiness. Relationship wise? It is even worse. Of course there are solutions. Start removing as many electronics as you possibly can; place the ones you must keep, far away from your head. If it’s SO painful to remove the TV, cover it with a decorative fabric. Make sure is placed against a solid wall. According to Feng Shui, you are to also avoid water elements and mirrors. This is up to you. Again, this article isn’t about Feng Shui, I’m simply using small elements of it here and there. I think mirrors in the bedroom are, required 
.
Ensure all of the fabrics touching your skin are soft and cozy and your pillows are plush. Buy the best sheets and pillows you can afford. Use a scented linen spray or your favorite perfume and iron your sheets, nothing fancy, just a quick once over.
6 – BRING IN LIFE
Fresh flowers add so much to a home. Keep fresh flowers on the table and in the front hall. One flower stem in a bud vase in the powder room is all it takes. Also at the kitchen table your desk and the coffee table would benefit from a simple arrangement of fresh flowers. You don’t need a full bouquet for each. One standard bouquet can split into two. When that special someone sees you like fresh flowers as well, he may get the hint and start buying them for you. Men actually like buying flowers for women, they just don’t do it because they thing we don’t appreciate because it’s too simple. Then we get annoyed that he doesn’t remember the simple things. Misunderstanding of the genders I call it! Sometimes men need to be guided, show him that the simple things matter too.
7 – SERENADE YOUR HOME
This is a HUGE part of having an inviting atmosphere. Play soft music on low, ALWAYS. Yes when you leave home, leave the music on low. When you walk through the door after a long day of work the sounds will be so inviting and instantly begin to relax you. When you keep the music on, the energy infuses into your home. Guest will love the vibe. Be careful you’re not playing break up slow jams as you are setting energy here. Just because its slow and melodic, doesn’t mean it’s good energy. Skip Chante Moore’s “Bitter” and go for her “Love’s Taken Over” instead. Keep the music always on, switch it up as you see fit but just let it play.
8 – THE COMFORT DETAILS
Adjust the sounds, reduce noises, lighting. Make your place as comfortable as possible. Close that bathroom door and the toilet lid, oil squeaky doors. Keep the space clean and clutter free. Burn lavender essential oil for a restful sleep. If you didn’t have the will power to remove the TV, while in the bedroom, focus on your partner or a favorite book, instead of the TV. Keep fresh, soft linens in the bathrooms and make sure it’s clear of clutter from product bottles. Look at what hotels do to create comfort.
9 – THE SEXY DETAILS
Add a few candles for soft lighting, put all light fixtures and lamps on dimmers and if possible, change your bulbs to the most flattering shades. Use soft luxurious fabrics if possible (they last longer anyhow). Have a sexy scent wafting through the air. You can actually use your old Glade Plug In scent bottles with your own favorite perfume or cologne. Here’s an article on how to do it: http://www.ehow.com/how_5012011_make-house-smell-sexy.html
10 – Relax and enjoy! A harmonious, sexy and inviting space is not only great for when you have guests but more importantly it’s essential for your spirit. It relaxes you and helps you focus on you.
Hope this helped. If you have any other suggestions or tips on what you’ve tried, let me know!
Did I Offend You?
I’ve been dealing with the issue of offence lately. I find I’m allowing myself to get offended by people and the effect has not been very productive to this process of development. So, as a person committed to growth and development, I sought an answer, tools and tips to better myself in this area and I’m sharing my learning’s with you.
Offence is something people rarely look at as an issue to personal development, about that is because we use there isn’t much understanding of what it is and we tend to address the results of offence instead of offence itself. Offence is often the starting point of many of our negative emotions. Offence is manifested in or displayed through: hurt, anger, bitterness
When we allow offence to permeate our spirits we put up an automatic wall to blessings and open the side door to anger, hurt, disappointment. All of which create a muddy environment for you to really see clearly and act consciously. When you allow offence to take hold you essentially give away some of your power. You have allowed a person’s actions or in-actions, however real or perceived they may be, to shift your spirit into a different state. A state of being that is not conducive to your path of personal development and growth. You are now a victim and victimisis (new word ) is cancerous. This state of being keeps you from growing and renewing. When Tom did that thing that just ticked you off and now you gotta tell this person and that person. You have not stopped the forward movement and are stagnating and stewing.
Often times our offence is based on assumption and perception of people’s actions, in-actions or words. Now, some say perception is reality but that’s not entirely the case. YOUR Perception may be YOUR reality and a skewed reality but not reality in and of itself. For example, and this is a very simplistic example, but say you tell someone something very important and they just don’t respond. You’ve verbally expressed something or sent an email and they say nothing. You can get upset and offended because they don’t care, they are ignoring you OR you can ask “what else could this mean?” Could they maybe not have received the message (didn’t hear, didn’t see email etc)? There could be a whole variety of reasons, so why jump to the worst one? Your perception and your reality is that you are feeling ignored but the reality may be they didn’t get the message. My challenge to you and myself is, when someone does something and offence threatens to creep up, stop and ask, “What else could this mean?” before jumping to the worst and allowing offence to set in and get to the truth of the matter.
Offence also puts a divide between you and the person and when the offence is based on an unproven perception, this can have adverse affects that you may regret. I’ll leave you to think about that one.
So what about when the worst possibility is in fact the truth/reality? However they meant not malicious intent by it? A philosophy I adopted a while ago in my life is when you see how people are, accept it and just treat them accordingly. So, let’s say Jane can’t keep her mouth shut. You tell her something and she will without a doubt tell someone else. Not out of malicious intent. Jane just can’t keep her mouth shut. Now, Jane is an adult, she is who she is and you are not going to change her. As Maya Angelou said, “when people tell you who they are – believe them”. So just accept Jane for who she is and treat her accordingly. Simply put, just don’t tell Jane your business. You can loan Jane money because she‘s great at paying it back. You can do all kinds of other things with Jane but don’t tell her your business. She has not developed a capacity in this area of her life. Keep her at an arm’s length, let her be who she is, but don’t get offended by who she is.
But what about when the worst possibility is in fact the truth/reality AND that person did in fact mean to do the malicious, hurtful act or those words were in fact intended in the way you received it? Cut them off and move on. Lighten your load and you’ll be the better for it.
How you handle offenses matters. When you are going to a new level you will experience the phenomenon of Higher Levels/Higher Devils, the more you grow the bigger the potentials issues. Being able to effectively deal with things at the level you are at allows you to grow to the next level and builds a foundation for dealing with the issues at the next level.
So who has offended you? When you practice asking “what else could this mean?” and allowing people to be who they are and just treating them accordingly, you’ll open yourself up to the humanity of people and gain compassion. Another notch in your personal development tool belt!
Again this site is not just about me. Share some of your thoughts on dealing with offence.
How To Develop A Personal Mission Statement
A personal mission state is a very powerful tool in the process of creating a divine lifestyle. Its your road map to success.
I was first introduced to the idea of having a personal mission statement when I joined Shanel Cooper Sykes, Shanel’s Classroom, a life coach and empowerment tool. One of the first tasks you have before starting class is to set up a personal mission statement.
What is a Personal Mission Statement
When you think about it, every successful business has a mission statement. A mission statement is designed to provide direction to business, a statement of purpose. A mission statement explains the company’s reason for being. A personal mission statement is seeks to accomplish the same. Writing a personal mission statement offers the opportunity to establish what’s important and serves as road map. It articulates the answer to the question, what is my reason for being. A personal mission statement must be flexible. As you go through life and learn and grow you will need to adjust the statement accordingly.
How to Create It
So how do you create a personal mission statement? Here a few introspective questions covering all areas of your life, to get you started.
- What do you ultimately want for your life?
- What do you want your spirituality to be like?
- How much money to you want?
- How will you get that money?
- What do you want to do with your life? Read 1o Steps To Finding Your Passion and Purpose
- What do you want your relationships to be like?
- Are you married, do you want to get married?
- How about kids?
- Do you have a physical, health or weight goal?,
- How amount your social life? What should that look lke?
- An of course stuff? What do you want? What kind of house, car etc
- Now ask Why? Why do you t these things?
Now your statement doesn’t have t cover all of these areas, in fact maybe it shouldn’t because the more focused it is the more effective. These questions are just to get your juices flowing.
No Negativity
Don’t but any negative statements in your mission statement, like I will not, I don’t want. Based on the Law of Attraction, this action just brings that same thing to you. What you focus on expands. For a biblical reference look at Job, “For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me”. Don’t focus on the negative. Instead, if that line item in crucial to your personal mission statement, turn that negative statement into a positive. Instead of “I will not make random purchases”, say “I will make responsible decisions with my financial resources.”
Repetition
Once you’ve created your statement you need to get it into your very soul Write it out on a cue card or paper no smaller than 5 x 9. Post it somewhere you can see it. Say it repeatedly and memorize it. Some key times to say it are just before you get out of bed and just before you go to sleep, But say it throughout the day as well. What I did is create an event called “Check In” in my Blackberry. In the notes area I typed out my whole statement. Then I set it to go off at four hours intervals every day. So every day, every four hours I check in with myself and say my statement. It anchors me and keeps me focused on task. Say it often until you have it memorized.
You Have To Believe It
As you say your statement, pay close attention to your body. Read Changing Your State of Being can Change Your Life. Adjust your body into a position of excitement and power. Don’t just say it, proclaim it with passion. This is not just anything; this is your PERSONAL mission statement, your road map. Get excited. Believe it to your core. Feel each line item as you proclaim it to the universe and watch it respond.
The Power of a Personal Mission Statement
I can definitely attest that a personal mission statement is a vital piece in the process of transforming your life. As I mentioned earlier, when I first created my mission statement I set it in my blackberry to go off at four hour intervals. In my statement I was claiming a certain amount of money. I was in a very unhappy environment at the time and long story short, I quit my job. I actually just walked out and said I’m not coming back! How’s that for “bold”?! Well sitting in my car was sitting in my car trying to figure out what to do now, I received a phone call. I was offered a job making the exact amount I was claiming in my mission. What makes this extraordinary is the fact that the amount was much more than I had ever earned and ever expected from this job when I went for the interview. I stretched my limits and reached for more and got it. Of course, now the gloves where off and I was ready to stretch myself BEYOND. I accepted the job (as a “for now”) and quickly updated my mission statement!
Here is a cool tool I found online Mission Statement Builder although I think you get a better product when you follow the steps I’ve outlined
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Faith + Action (power) – Worry = Change
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Faith is the Substance
So what’s the problem? Life’s not going the way you want? Seems like “stuff” keeps happening? Maybe you were going really well in life, things were going good but then you got bumped by life and somehow allowed circumstances and situations to beat up on you. Snap out of this! Don’t you know that you’re above this! You are above situations.
You are God’s great creation. God lives in you and moves through you and he has given you POWER over circumstances. Do you know what power means? The actual dictionary definition? There are three definitions, one of which is “The ability (able to do) to do or act.” Think about it when something has power it is able to do or act in its purpose. God has given you the ability to do or act over your circumstances. But you have to believe this and receive it. He can’t MAKE you believe because he has also given us the “power” of choice.
You know that God lives in you right? The bible tells us our body is the temple of God. His Spirit resides in us and prompts us and gives us power but we are the vessel and we need to use our vessel (feet, hands, eye, ears, mouth etc) to follow out the truth in flesh that is in the spirit. That’s ACTION.
So after you grasp and truly believe, you need to do/act. Faith requires ACTION to be complete. Do you notice Jesus was always moving? Have a look at the Gospels and read the beginning of each chapter, he was moving. It’s called “walking” in faith and walking is action. Read James, faith without works (actions) is dead. Your actions of course have to be in line with your faith. You can’t say I have faith and believe that I have the power to change my life and circumstances and then take counterproductive steps. It has to align.
So Again,” faith without works (actions in line with your faith) is dead” so you need to take ACTION on your faith and believe that you have power.
No faith also by its very definition means you do not worry. You did not create you and you have no idea of knowing what your tomorrow will be. Absolutely none! So stop trying because IT IS IMPOSSIBLE to know tomorrow. Trust God and just live. Stop letting life control you and beat you down and use your power to take faithful action in the form on one step forward and up out of it, without worry. The bible tells us God knew our end before we were even born. He knows! So let Him be the one to steer this ship!
We all get bumped sometimes and have down time but you have to come out of it and through it. Leave the ‘ish behind and take the lesson with you and go forward.
I remember my pastor saying something to the affect that when you feel like your life is under attack, situations seem to keep arising, it’s really a sign that there is something great that the devil is trying his hardest to prevent you from achieving. God has something great planned for your life on the other end of that situation. Are you really going to give in?
Faith + action (power) – worry = change
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Failure is Impossible
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Let me share one of my epiphanies with you. In my journey through life I’ve come gratefully to learn that failure is actually NOT POSSIBLE. You either succeed or learn something to make your next step a better one.
In my former life I was a REALTOR….for a minute. I went through so much preparation, aced the exams and joined a amazing brokerage with a laid out plan for success. But, because of what I know realized was a lack of confidence (the key ingredient in any thing you do) I made NO money. As time went on, the savings dwindled and the debt mounted and I did what I thought was my only option, I quit. And that was my fatal error.
Mind you Real Estate wasn’t my passion but if making money was the goal, quitting was my “failure”. I took so many lessons from the experience and learnt so much about myself, who I was and what I wanted that in reality it only made me a better and more focused person.
When working through your plan, your business, your passion and something happens that has you felling like you’ve failed or just has you feeling down on yourself, remember that the train is still moving. Life is still moving and you have the choice to continue riding this train or jump off and end up stranded…nowhere. If you’re walking in your purpose, in your passion, I encourage you to stay on the train and remember this situation is actually just a setback and a setback is a setup for a comeback! Learn from the setback and go forward.
When you find you’ve hit a setback:
- Take time to think about your goal, the intended end result
- Consider the steps you’ve taken thus far
- Now reevaluate and create new plan based on the lessons you just learnt and PRESS TOWARD THE MARK
- Stay FOCUSED on the end result. The prize.
You have to stay focused on your goal. Focus means: Follow On Course Until Successful. The saying “keep your eye on the prize” has really been thrown around but that’s what you need to do, always keep a mental picture of that beautiful prize. You can’t stop. Your victory, your success is just on the other side of this. Keep going.
And don’t beat up on yourself. It’s easy to look at other people and think that everyone else has it together but you. We are our biggest critics but I’ve come to learn that you never really know what’s going on with people, you just see what they display. The reality is we all deal with setbacks and disappointments. The key is, as I’ve kept saying, is to keep going with forward positive movement.
The great thing about life is you create it and in the case of failure, you set the parameters on what failure is. For me, failure is giving up. I have set in my spirit that the only way I can fail is if I give up. As long as I don’t give up there is always a way and a chance for reaching my mark. The only way I won’t get there, is if I stop pressing. But I’ve also added the caveat that no matter what, if I quit or it quits me, if I learn valuable lessons to apply towards my next step, I’ve succeed as a person.
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* How you have all the power over men, that they like it that way, and how you've missed out on some amazing opportunities for love.
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* Why knowing when and how to ask the right question will cause him to share what's buried deep in his heart, so that you get the intimacy you want and he discovers you are the source of something he's never allowed himself to feel before.
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